In this article we will concentrate on this topic as a divorce. if you have a child. Should I spoil the life of a child due to the fact that the parents had a fight.
Nowadays nobody can give a guarantee that it will pass so many years, and the couple will die one day, having lived a long, happy family life. Marriages are made in heaven but broken up very prosaic-on the ground among broken shards of a once beautiful love and lost dreams. Causes of destruction of the family very much, they can be associated with the character of the spouses, relations with relatives (especially parents), friends, distribution of functions and roles in the family, the intervention independent of someone’s will circumstances, such as illness or death of any family member. If the family has not had time to have children, then divorce takes place, as a rule, less painful for the couple. If you have children –they are the first, who deeply and sincerely suffering from the breakdown of relationships between parents. For children growing up in an intact family, the presence of mom and dad, sleeping in the same bed, eating at the same table or sitting on the same sofa while watching TV, this phenomenon is familiar and soothing his soul. He says to himself: okay, I’m home, all of us together. It creates a certain steady normal way of life –all in the mind, I will come to school or kindergarten. I come home and I’ll Continue reading
Babies can’t tell their moms and dads what they want, or what they hurt and the only way to contact parents is crying. Crying is for babies primary means of communication with others, it’s a Wake-up call about the necessary assistance and need to know what is the cause of the crying and help your baby.
Reason for crying is not enough, and the baby never cries without reason. The cry of a baby is always different and depends on what was troubling him, and crying from pain in the tummy, for example, very similar to weeping caused inconvenience, boredom and loneliness.
Gradually parents begin to identify causes of crying your baby. We will try to understand the underlying reasons for a child’s crying.
Probable causes of crying
Hunger . Crying due to hunger is the main factor crying baby and soothe it easier. Food is the most important need of the baby, so when your baby is hungry, to comfort him the only food is milk. Recently the doctors pediatricians recommend to feed your baby on demand and not to build any particular mode of feeding .
A hungry child first cries and stops, waiting for the result and if it is not understood, begins to scream again, but compassionate, demanding and shrill. Continue reading
In psychology found a wonderful way of assisting the other party in cases where it is difficult to cope with the situation, to experience failure, to Express not quite clear feelings or thoughts. He called the technique of active listening.
Ears on top
With the active hearing your task – to understand the speaker and let him know about it. When we say “understand”, we mean not only the content words, but also his emotional experience.
To solve both of these tasks helps the next appointment – to repeat what is said by the interlocutor, and thus to call it a feeling or a state.
Reproducing the contact said, you can repeat a single word, an entire phrase or use a “paraphrase”, that is, to convey the meaning in other words.
For example, your daughter-the schoolgirl said: “I wouldn’t wear these shoes because they are stupid carrot color and me are all in the class to laugh”. Your answer might be: “You don’t like these shoes because you’re afraid that because of their bright colors in school you’ll be laughed at”.
Why is it necessary?
If your answer is accurate, the person will feel that you have joined his experiences. Continue reading