She was lucky: they were her real parents gave her love, family and home. Writer, blogger, mom remembers my story helps us to understand the feelings of those who are adopted, and the answers to those questions that we don’t always dare to ask.
My experience – this is only my experience. It is clear that all of us who foster children, is different, everyone has their experiences, their feelings – here is the whole palette of emotions from black to white. I do not in any way speak on behalf of all. But I think we each had the opportunity to speak.
The first months of his life I spent in the car. One day mother left me alone and never came back. I was a year, when I was adopted. So I found my real family. Usually others may have many questions, if they know that I was adopted. I heard these questions over the years as I can remember. And I would like to give, finally, the answers. About everything and everyone at once.
1. Orphans in life does not look like orphans with Golden curls that you see in the movies. They’re just kids. They went through trials that many find it difficult even to imagine. They need Continue reading
In our country, decided to take care of their offspring. To help them obtain education, housing, to babysit their grandchildren. There’s even a joke – with children have to mess around until retirement… children themselves. In every joke there is some truth – alas, infantilism in children enough. But hand on heart, we have to admit – even in his youth independent energetic person for housing won’t work. At least these young people a little.
We need millions, so without parental care to seriously.
For a start, two illustrations from life. “The only man in my life who gave me an apartment, my own dad,” likes to repeat one lady, a friend of the editors of “Journal of real estate”. The history of it is this. On the decline of the Soviet Union her parents bought her one-bedroom cooperative apartment. In those days, for more or less wealthy family, it was possible. The time has come, and the girl started a family. Her husband was in those days, “homeless”, but the young family has managed this one transform over time into a two-bedroom, gradually increasing the walk. Solved the housing problem allowing couples to raise two kids. Now they think, how to help their own children.
All moms are different colors. There’s brunettes, blonde, brown or red. With dark skin or light. Blue eyes, green or brown. Choosing bright outfits or discreet black. And mom different colors… soul. What are moms? And what You mother is blue or orange, or maybe red? Or green, or yellow?
No, this is not a psychological test! And not even a comic classifications, of which there are plenty in the Internet. All seriously. Now it becomes clear.
For starters, that’s what it is.
In the mid-20th century American psychologist Dr. graves and his followers don Beck and Chris Cowan has formulated the so-called theory of spiral dynamics . They took as the basis of classification of their system of values! Every individual (and even society in General) are on one level. But these same levels were identified in different colors. Turned out such a fun picture.
Why I decided to talk about it?
The fact that such important thing as a system of values, is laid in childhood, and is formed of mom and dad. In adult life it is very difficult to change. This is akin to the revolution. So we automatically projected our system of children. What they grow? Maybe now it’s easier to fix something?
Beige man . no arms and no legs characterizes Continue reading