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Recently we received a letter from the mother of a girl, in which she complained that her daughter was not sure myself: afraid to Express themselves in school, avoiding initiatives.
The problem described by our reader, is not new. Many parents face this: the child is closed, insecure, difficult to converge with classmates, defends his point of view. And further such insecurities can go into complexes, complicate social adaptation, will prevent him from showing his skills and find his place in life.
How can parents help the child?
Step one. Exploration
First of all need to understand the causes of uncertainty, realize, and for this purpose to analyze the situations in which it manifests itself. You should make a list of situations in which the child is experiencing difficulty. For example, he is unsure of the new situation, Blendable in an unfamiliar team, afraid to make contact with a stranger. I personally know of several examples where an insurmountable obstacle is to buy bread in the tent, because the child is shy to speak with the seller.
Or obedient child becomes aggressive when parents come to visit. He’s surly, snarling, behaves shocking, runs away, Continue reading
In the minds of most of us, the word manipulation often causes negative emotions.
Many might say: manipulation in communication is deception, lies, submission of knowingly false information.
But this concept is much broader. Let’s try to understand: is it good or bad?
That there is manipulation in communication?
This is the impact of technology on the unconscious part of the human psyche for the purpose of obtaining the benefits of achieving the goal. We can say that it is the desire of the manipulator to control another person (thoughts, actions), without his knowledge.
Manipulation techniques used in communication
Here is a rough classification:
manipulation in business (interaction partners for the purpose of entering into the contract)
manipulation in the team
manipulation in the family (whether spouses or relatives),
manipulation in education («parent-child»),
manipulation in the media (imposing opinions through Newspapers, television),
manipulation in public life (politics).
Every once in his life manipulated in dealing with people, with the aim of obtaining some benefit, whether it be parents, lover, colleagues or friends. People in communicating with people sticking to its specific purpose (not always selfish).
The formation of elementary culture of thinking must begin with the first months of a child’s life. A grown man has known speech, conceptual thinking. The concept of — this is a compilation of experiences of human activity in the word. The richer the experience, the more meaningful concepts, the deeper the thought. We sometimes think that we think regardless of any activity, from practice, but this is false. The most abstract thought is always associated with the human-1 cal practice through the concept, the word, generalizing a certain experience. First concepts begin to emerge in the preschool childhood. This process is being prepared in early childhood. Summarizing the experience in the word occurs not immediately, but gradually. The word constantly as more and more saturated with content.
Modern psychologists have identified three main stages in the development of the thinking child: clearly-effective, visual-figurative and conceptual thinking. Visual-active thinking is inherent mainly to the children of 1st, 2nd, 3rd year of life. However, already in the third year begins to form visual-figurative thinking, and then in older preschoolers, there are the first Continue reading