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Recently we received a letter from the mother of a girl, in which she complained that her daughter was not sure myself: afraid to Express themselves in school, avoiding initiatives.
The problem described by our reader, is not new. Many parents face this: the child is closed, insecure, difficult to converge with classmates, defends his point of view. And further such insecurities can go into complexes, complicate social adaptation, will prevent him from showing his skills and find his place in life.
How can parents help the child?
Step one. Exploration
First of all need to understand the causes of uncertainty, realize, and for this purpose to analyze the situations in which it manifests itself. You should make a list of situations in which the child is experiencing difficulty. For example, he is unsure of the new situation, Blendable in an unfamiliar team, afraid to make contact with a stranger. I personally know of several examples where an insurmountable obstacle is to buy bread in the tent, because the child is shy to speak with the seller.
Or obedient child becomes aggressive when parents come to visit. He’s surly, snarling, behaves shocking, runs away, Continue reading
We are all children of their parents. We trust them with early childhood – because they raised us and cared for us. Over time, many and become parents themselves, and are surprised to find what it is hard work. But understanding that we are the ones, previous and often have not ended the relationship – for example, mother-daughter time.
With a high probability will not “adjust” to the new realities, and to rebuild completely. The girl grew up, the mother persists – where the roots of this conflict and how it is properly resolved?
Difficult period of growing up
Maturing sons is relatively easier, but not softer. Girls tend to agree with mom, or at least not to conflict once again. But the children quite dramatically declare their own independence and isolation. Therefore, the question “how to build a mother relationship with adult daughter?” is much sharper than in the relationship “son – father”.
The worst thing that you can think of, and that certainly will affect the entire life of girls, the future women are defending their “maturity”. The right to be themselves, to have their own beliefs and causes quarrels, complex relationships grown daughters with my mom. How to establish a mother’s relationship with adult daughter, if both sides persist?
5-7 years. Continue reading
In the minds of most of us, the word manipulation often causes negative emotions.
Many might say: manipulation in communication is deception, lies, submission of knowingly false information.
But this concept is much broader. Let’s try to understand: is it good or bad?
That there is manipulation in communication?
This is the impact of technology on the unconscious part of the human psyche for the purpose of obtaining the benefits of achieving the goal. We can say that it is the desire of the manipulator to control another person (thoughts, actions), without his knowledge.
Manipulation techniques used in communication
Here is a rough classification:
manipulation in business (interaction partners for the purpose of entering into the contract)
manipulation in the team
manipulation in the family (whether spouses or relatives),
manipulation in education («parent-child»),
manipulation in the media (imposing opinions through Newspapers, television),
manipulation in public life (politics).
Every once in his life manipulated in dealing with people, with the aim of obtaining some benefit, whether it be parents, lover, colleagues or friends. People in communicating with people sticking to its specific purpose (not always selfish).