Step by step instructions
Recently we received a letter from the mother of a girl, in which she complained that her daughter was not sure myself: afraid to Express themselves in school, avoiding initiatives.
The problem described by our reader, is not new. Many parents face this: the child is closed, insecure, difficult to converge with classmates, defends his point of view. And further such insecurities can go into complexes, complicate social adaptation, will prevent him from showing his skills and find his place in life.
How can parents help the child?
Step one. Exploration
First of all need to understand the causes of uncertainty, realize, and for this purpose to analyze the situations in which it manifests itself. You should make a list of situations in which the child is experiencing difficulty. For example, he is unsure of the new situation, Blendable in an unfamiliar team, afraid to make contact with a stranger. I personally know of several examples where an insurmountable obstacle is to buy bread in the tent, because the child is shy to speak with the seller.
Or obedient child becomes aggressive when parents come to visit. He’s surly, snarling, behaves shocking, runs away, Continue reading
Why not just come up with our kids! Their imagination would envy even the storyteller!
Surely all parents are already faced with the first fictional or embellished stories of their tots. But there comes that moment when you realize that the child is no longer just dreams . and develops her skills liar-professional.
Then the parents begin to worry, not knowing how to wean their child from such nasty habits. Often we do not think that it is our attitude, education or reaction to children’s lie exacerbates the problem.
Why the child is lying
If the younger sibling was more likely to deceive their parents, most likely, he ceased to trust them, or just afraid of the negative reactions to the offense. It is very important to know that you are not going to scold him. Express dissatisfaction with the act of the child, not them as a person.
Scientists have found that 4-year-old child lying approximately every two hours, and six-year – every 90 minutes. False “from the mouth of Babes” appears in 3 years, and 4-6 years children reach this perfection.
I’m afraid of you!
The most common cause of children’s lies – the fear of a parent yelling or punishment Continue reading
She was lucky: they were her real parents gave her love, family and home. Writer, blogger, mom remembers my story helps us to understand the feelings of those who are adopted, and the answers to those questions that we don’t always dare to ask.
My experience – this is only my experience. It is clear that all of us who foster children, is different, everyone has their experiences, their feelings – here is the whole palette of emotions from black to white. I do not in any way speak on behalf of all. But I think we each had the opportunity to speak.
The first months of his life I spent in the car. One day mother left me alone and never came back. I was a year, when I was adopted. So I found my real family. Usually others may have many questions, if they know that I was adopted. I heard these questions over the years as I can remember. And I would like to give, finally, the answers. About everything and everyone at once.
1. Orphans in life does not look like orphans with Golden curls that you see in the movies. They’re just kids. They went through trials that many find it difficult even to imagine. They need Continue reading