We are all children of their parents. We trust them with early childhood – because they raised us and cared for us. Over time, many and become parents themselves, and are surprised to find what it is hard work. But understanding that we are the ones, previous and often have not ended the relationship – for example, mother-daughter time.
With a high probability will not “adjust” to the new realities, and to rebuild completely. The girl grew up, the mother persists – where the roots of this conflict and how it is properly resolved?
Difficult period of growing up
Maturing sons is relatively easier, but not softer. Girls tend to agree with mom, or at least not to conflict once again. But the children quite dramatically declare their own independence and isolation. Therefore, the question “how to build a mother relationship with adult daughter?” is much sharper than in the relationship “son – father”.
The worst thing that you can think of, and that certainly will affect the entire life of girls, the future women are defending their “maturity”. The right to be themselves, to have their own beliefs and causes quarrels, complex relationships grown daughters with my mom. How to establish a mother’s relationship with adult daughter, if both sides persist?
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She was lucky: they were her real parents gave her love, family and home. Writer, blogger, mom remembers my story helps us to understand the feelings of those who are adopted, and the answers to those questions that we don’t always dare to ask.
My experience – this is only my experience. It is clear that all of us who foster children, is different, everyone has their experiences, their feelings – here is the whole palette of emotions from black to white. I do not in any way speak on behalf of all. But I think we each had the opportunity to speak.
The first months of his life I spent in the car. One day mother left me alone and never came back. I was a year, when I was adopted. So I found my real family. Usually others may have many questions, if they know that I was adopted. I heard these questions over the years as I can remember. And I would like to give, finally, the answers. About everything and everyone at once.
1. Orphans in life does not look like orphans with Golden curls that you see in the movies. They’re just kids. They went through trials that many find it difficult even to imagine. They need Continue reading
Many older people are faced with a situation that their adult son or daughter, whom they raised with such effort and difficulty, not has for him no respect and gratitude. If you ask people what is the reason for their negative attitude towards the mother and father, most often the answer will be the same for everybody: “They are evil, capricious and does not understand our needs.” Yes, older people tend to grumble and Express themselves intolerant of young people. But grumpy parents of the children also need to respect, and treat them with gratitude. Trouble lonely old people, which left the children is not in their nature, and their errors in the education of their children since childhood. They are unable to instill in their children respect for elders because of the lack of the approximate relationship to the parents. No matter what your parents, all people should remember the Golden rule: the best education is by example. If the parents when a child arguing with their parents resent them and shout at them, that same attitude to be expected in old age. The older the child, the harder it is to instill in him respect for elders. Under 5 years of age for a child no matter the age of a person, he can play Continue reading