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Recently we received a letter from the mother of a girl, in which she complained that her daughter was not sure myself: afraid to Express themselves in school, avoiding initiatives.
The problem described by our reader, is not new. Many parents face this: the child is closed, insecure, difficult to converge with classmates, defends his point of view. And further such insecurities can go into complexes, complicate social adaptation, will prevent him from showing his skills and find his place in life.
How can parents help the child?
Step one. Exploration
First of all need to understand the causes of uncertainty, realize, and for this purpose to analyze the situations in which it manifests itself. You should make a list of situations in which the child is experiencing difficulty. For example, he is unsure of the new situation, Blendable in an unfamiliar team, afraid to make contact with a stranger. I personally know of several examples where an insurmountable obstacle is to buy bread in the tent, because the child is shy to speak with the seller.
Or obedient child becomes aggressive when parents come to visit. He’s surly, snarling, behaves shocking, runs away, Continue reading
It is clear that games games strife. Four-year-old, rubaiya in “counter strike”, cause most adults are almost the same feelings as if he smoked or drank beer. (Though at desire it is possible and to find favor: say, kid trains your reaction and healthy sports rage.) But there are also special children’s computer games: developing logical thinking, ability to analyze, vocabulary, visual memory, ear training, coordination of movements; teaching reading, mathematics, drawing, languages, traffic rules and behavior in society. and so on and so forth. In General, promise a lot of “Goodies” that I want to immediately run out and buy, otherwise you will not see the child a decent education. However, among the specialist children’s doctors, teachers, psychologists — many opponents of children’s computer games than supporters. If you list the pros and cons, it will turn out so. Against: damage to the eyes and spine, computer radiation, the load on the psyche, addictive. For: the child quickly learns to read, count, acquires computer skills; everything is good in moderation; and in terms of vision and light TV is much more harmful than the computer. Now details.
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In this article we will concentrate on this topic as a divorce. if you have a child. Should I spoil the life of a child due to the fact that the parents had a fight.
Nowadays nobody can give a guarantee that it will pass so many years, and the couple will die one day, having lived a long, happy family life. Marriages are made in heaven but broken up very prosaic-on the ground among broken shards of a once beautiful love and lost dreams. Causes of destruction of the family very much, they can be associated with the character of the spouses, relations with relatives (especially parents), friends, distribution of functions and roles in the family, the intervention independent of someone’s will circumstances, such as illness or death of any family member. If the family has not had time to have children, then divorce takes place, as a rule, less painful for the couple. If you have children –they are the first, who deeply and sincerely suffering from the breakdown of relationships between parents. For children growing up in an intact family, the presence of mom and dad, sleeping in the same bed, eating at the same table or sitting on the same sofa while watching TV, this phenomenon is familiar and soothing his soul. He says to himself: okay, I’m home, all of us together. It creates a certain steady normal way of life –all in the mind, I will come to school or kindergarten. I come home and I’ll Continue reading