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Recently we received a letter from the mother of a girl, in which she complained that her daughter was not sure myself: afraid to Express themselves in school, avoiding initiatives.
The problem described by our reader, is not new. Many parents face this: the child is closed, insecure, difficult to converge with classmates, defends his point of view. And further such insecurities can go into complexes, complicate social adaptation, will prevent him from showing his skills and find his place in life.
How can parents help the child?
Step one. Exploration
First of all need to understand the causes of uncertainty, realize, and for this purpose to analyze the situations in which it manifests itself. You should make a list of situations in which the child is experiencing difficulty. For example, he is unsure of the new situation, Blendable in an unfamiliar team, afraid to make contact with a stranger. I personally know of several examples where an insurmountable obstacle is to buy bread in the tent, because the child is shy to speak with the seller.
Or obedient child becomes aggressive when parents come to visit. He’s surly, snarling, behaves shocking, runs away, Continue reading
Why not just come up with our kids! Their imagination would envy even the storyteller!
Surely all parents are already faced with the first fictional or embellished stories of their tots. But there comes that moment when you realize that the child is no longer just dreams . and develops her skills liar-professional.
Then the parents begin to worry, not knowing how to wean their child from such nasty habits. Often we do not think that it is our attitude, education or reaction to children’s lie exacerbates the problem.
Why the child is lying
If the younger sibling was more likely to deceive their parents, most likely, he ceased to trust them, or just afraid of the negative reactions to the offense. It is very important to know that you are not going to scold him. Express dissatisfaction with the act of the child, not them as a person.
Scientists have found that 4-year-old child lying approximately every two hours, and six-year – every 90 minutes. False “from the mouth of Babes” appears in 3 years, and 4-6 years children reach this perfection.
I’m afraid of you!
The most common cause of children’s lies – the fear of a parent yelling or punishment Continue reading
So true. You became the parents of adorable creatures with huge eyes and cute curls. Increasingly, however, think: angelic appearance girls – this is not the road to life. Baby needs consistent education, she should know the rules of behavior in society and the basics of etiquette. So where to start to bring this little lady?
First of all, with yourself. No matter how exquisite children’s teachers and psychologists in the invention of new methods of working with children, still to this day there is no more effective education than the influence of their own example. Mom maybe an hour telling my daughter that the people around you need to respect. But if after this highly moral notation together they go to the store and she will see how the mother pushes the other and goes to the checkout queue – down the drain. The girl will copy this good example, because mom loves and wants to be like her. And then wonder why the child grows rude. So the rule number one: words parents need to match their actions.
Rest assured: parental example baby continuously reads – to put advertising language, 24 hours a day and 7 days a week. Girls are by nature more accurately the boys, they catch Continue reading