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Recently we received a letter from the mother of a girl, in which she complained that her daughter was not sure myself: afraid to Express themselves in school, avoiding initiatives.
The problem described by our reader, is not new. Many parents face this: the child is closed, insecure, difficult to converge with classmates, defends his point of view. And further such insecurities can go into complexes, complicate social adaptation, will prevent him from showing his skills and find his place in life.
How can parents help the child?
Step one. Exploration
First of all need to understand the causes of uncertainty, realize, and for this purpose to analyze the situations in which it manifests itself. You should make a list of situations in which the child is experiencing difficulty. For example, he is unsure of the new situation, Blendable in an unfamiliar team, afraid to make contact with a stranger. I personally know of several examples where an insurmountable obstacle is to buy bread in the tent, because the child is shy to speak with the seller.
Or obedient child becomes aggressive when parents come to visit. He’s surly, snarling, behaves shocking, runs away, Continue reading
We are all children of their parents. We trust them with early childhood – because they raised us and cared for us. Over time, many and become parents themselves, and are surprised to find what it is hard work. But understanding that we are the ones, previous and often have not ended the relationship – for example, mother-daughter time.
With a high probability will not “adjust” to the new realities, and to rebuild completely. The girl grew up, the mother persists – where the roots of this conflict and how it is properly resolved?
Difficult period of growing up
Maturing sons is relatively easier, but not softer. Girls tend to agree with mom, or at least not to conflict once again. But the children quite dramatically declare their own independence and isolation. Therefore, the question “how to build a mother relationship with adult daughter?” is much sharper than in the relationship “son – father”.
The worst thing that you can think of, and that certainly will affect the entire life of girls, the future women are defending their “maturity”. The right to be themselves, to have their own beliefs and causes quarrels, complex relationships grown daughters with my mom. How to establish a mother’s relationship with adult daughter, if both sides persist?
5-7 years. Continue reading
In this article we will concentrate on this topic as a divorce. if you have a child. Should I spoil the life of a child due to the fact that the parents had a fight.
Nowadays nobody can give a guarantee that it will pass so many years, and the couple will die one day, having lived a long, happy family life. Marriages are made in heaven but broken up very prosaic-on the ground among broken shards of a once beautiful love and lost dreams. Causes of destruction of the family very much, they can be associated with the character of the spouses, relations with relatives (especially parents), friends, distribution of functions and roles in the family, the intervention independent of someone’s will circumstances, such as illness or death of any family member. If the family has not had time to have children, then divorce takes place, as a rule, less painful for the couple. If you have children –they are the first, who deeply and sincerely suffering from the breakdown of relationships between parents. For children growing up in an intact family, the presence of mom and dad, sleeping in the same bed, eating at the same table or sitting on the same sofa while watching TV, this phenomenon is familiar and soothing his soul. He says to himself: okay, I’m home, all of us together. It creates a certain steady normal way of life –all in the mind, I will come to school or kindergarten. I come home and I’ll Continue reading