Compassion and desire to help orphans often encouraged people to take the child into the family. But making documents for adoption or guardianship, it is not, how different from normal children can be orphans.
The adopted child is not the same as your own children. A mismatch between expectations and reality that drives you insane. Especially hard is for couples, who have children of their own. In this case, the comparison of friends and foes (not in favor of the latter, of course) transforms the lives of the whole family into a nightmare.
Love nonnative, and in addition the “difficult” child as your own is never easy. To do this, the adoptive parents will have to seriously work on myself and very much aware.
This is very different children
Your children were born in an atmosphere of love. And for many orphans “happy” childhood is associated with hunger, drunken debauchery parents and the beatings. You spoiled their kids with toys and sweets. And these crumbs fell asleep not cozy in the nursery and in the common room of the orphanage, they learned how to steal and cheat to survive. In addition, in dysfunctional families Continue reading
For starters, understand for yourself what lies in your children blame YOU. Yes, it is you, not the school, kindergarten, bad company… Here, for example: your baby is four years old, you come for a visit to aunt Alla that treats you pickles. The child turns away, not wants, says: “Tasteless!” You Chipita: “what! Aunt Alla cooks so well! Don’t talk nonsense!” Next time a son or daughter to his (her) not abused, will not be to say “tasteless” and begin to praise what he doesn’t like, but you or someone else will be pleased to listen to his “reasonable speech”. You parents are asked to come to the phone and say that they’re not home? I have been asked. I went and lied. You scolded twos? And berate me. What did you do to about these twos’t know? We are two guys from the diary tried to “withdraw” with the help of various chemicals or accurately ripped out pages.
The reasons children lie perfectly wrote the psychologist O. Yurchenko in his book “the truth about children’s lies, or what parents need to know young liars”.
Children lie because:
– parents like to invent, facilitating a life half-truths and insincerity;
– there is a lack of attention and warmth from their parents;
– children Continue reading
Babies can’t tell their moms and dads what they want, or what they hurt and the only way to contact parents is crying. Crying is for babies primary means of communication with others, it’s a Wake-up call about the necessary assistance and need to know what is the cause of the crying and help your baby.
Reason for crying is not enough, and the baby never cries without reason. The cry of a baby is always different and depends on what was troubling him, and crying from pain in the tummy, for example, very similar to weeping caused inconvenience, boredom and loneliness.
Gradually parents begin to identify causes of crying your baby. We will try to understand the underlying reasons for a child’s crying.
Probable causes of crying
Hunger . Crying due to hunger is the main factor crying baby and soothe it easier. Food is the most important need of the baby, so when your baby is hungry, to comfort him the only food is milk. Recently the doctors pediatricians recommend to feed your baby on demand and not to build any particular mode of feeding .
A hungry child first cries and stops, waiting for the result and if it is not understood, begins to scream again, but compassionate, demanding and shrill. Continue reading