In this article we will concentrate on this topic as a divorce. if you have a child. Should I spoil the life of a child due to the fact that the parents had a fight.
Nowadays nobody can give a guarantee that it will pass so many years, and the couple will die one day, having lived a long, happy family life. Marriages are made in heaven but broken up very prosaic-on the ground among broken shards of a once beautiful love and lost dreams. Causes of destruction of the family very much, they can be associated with the character of the spouses, relations with relatives (especially parents), friends, distribution of functions and roles in the family, the intervention independent of someone’s will circumstances, such as illness or death of any family member. If the family has not had time to have children, then divorce takes place, as a rule, less painful for the couple. If you have children –they are the first, who deeply and sincerely suffering from the breakdown of relationships between parents. For children growing up in an intact family, the presence of mom and dad, sleeping in the same bed, eating at the same table or sitting on the same sofa while watching TV, this phenomenon is familiar and soothing his soul. He says to himself: okay, I’m home, all of us together. It creates a certain steady normal way of life –all in the mind, I will come to school or kindergarten. I come home and I’ll Continue reading
In our country, decided to take care of their offspring. To help them obtain education, housing, to babysit their grandchildren. There’s even a joke – with children have to mess around until retirement… children themselves. In every joke there is some truth – alas, infantilism in children enough. But hand on heart, we have to admit – even in his youth independent energetic person for housing won’t work. At least these young people a little.
We need millions, so without parental care to seriously.
For a start, two illustrations from life. “The only man in my life who gave me an apartment, my own dad,” likes to repeat one lady, a friend of the editors of “Journal of real estate”. The history of it is this. On the decline of the Soviet Union her parents bought her one-bedroom cooperative apartment. In those days, for more or less wealthy family, it was possible. The time has come, and the girl started a family. Her husband was in those days, “homeless”, but the young family has managed this one transform over time into a two-bedroom, gradually increasing the walk. Solved the housing problem allowing couples to raise two kids. Now they think, how to help their own children.
“Why daddy ?” asked my daughter when she was 7 years old. “Without him you would not exist. And yet he cares about us, that we were fine,” I replied, and she thought.
Modern woman strives for autonomy and independence. The experience of grandmothers, mothers, girlfriends teaches that men cannot be counted. They are killed in war, they drink, go to other women, change their sexual orientation, their gambling addiction sucks… In the mind there is the image of men as something unstable, and a desire to avoid the mistakes of the older generation when the hostess was carrying the entire burden of care for yourself. “It is better to raise one than with this…”
How can that be? On the one hand, you want a reliable and faithful husband, a beautiful harmonious relationship, a loving father to his children. But, on the other hand, the parental experience of family or close friends, finally, my own first experience of the marital relationship scandals, lack of understanding, the threat of divorce is not an opportunity to relax and just enjoy family life. The woman at the slightest misunderstanding begins to doubt her choice as to the perfect father for the child.
Can a woman of the XXI century to be for baby and mom, and dad in one person? Let’s see what loses a child, if his life disappear father, Continue reading