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Recently we received a letter from the mother of a girl, in which she complained that her daughter was not sure myself: afraid to Express themselves in school, avoiding initiatives.
The problem described by our reader, is not new. Many parents face this: the child is closed, insecure, difficult to converge with classmates, defends his point of view. And further such insecurities can go into complexes, complicate social adaptation, will prevent him from showing his skills and find his place in life.
How can parents help the child?
Step one. Exploration
First of all need to understand the causes of uncertainty, realize, and for this purpose to analyze the situations in which it manifests itself. You should make a list of situations in which the child is experiencing difficulty. For example, he is unsure of the new situation, Blendable in an unfamiliar team, afraid to make contact with a stranger. I personally know of several examples where an insurmountable obstacle is to buy bread in the tent, because the child is shy to speak with the seller.
Or obedient child becomes aggressive when parents come to visit. He’s surly, snarling, behaves shocking, runs away, Continue reading
The history of the first tales probably millennia long time and this tradition survived until now, it has meaning and practical use. Psychologists, by the way, this usefulness was proven quite a while ago. The influence of fairy tales in child development , competent in their opinion, it is difficult to overestimate: they are necessary and important as a part of the correct moral and aesthetic identity formation.
According to experts, to tell tales baby properly, that is, taking into account the child’s age, emotional warehouse, mood and, of course, listening to his preferences and habits. However, blindly go about the child is not worth it: if your child insists on 10th double tale about Kolobok, your primary task is to interest the child a new theme and colorful characters. Otherwise, the educational component of the process will go in vain.
The influence of fairy tales in child development — Late, early, or it’s time?
The correct answer to the question: “at what age we should start to tell tales” does not exist. Every parent is addressing the issue individually. Today, paying tribute to fashionable psychological currents, many moms practice the listening and the telling of tales baby even during its embryonic development. A kind of logic in such actions are present: Continue reading
We are all children of their parents. We trust them with early childhood – because they raised us and cared for us. Over time, many and become parents themselves, and are surprised to find what it is hard work. But understanding that we are the ones, previous and often have not ended the relationship – for example, mother-daughter time.
With a high probability will not “adjust” to the new realities, and to rebuild completely. The girl grew up, the mother persists – where the roots of this conflict and how it is properly resolved?
Difficult period of growing up
Maturing sons is relatively easier, but not softer. Girls tend to agree with mom, or at least not to conflict once again. But the children quite dramatically declare their own independence and isolation. Therefore, the question “how to build a mother relationship with adult daughter?” is much sharper than in the relationship “son – father”.
The worst thing that you can think of, and that certainly will affect the entire life of girls, the future women are defending their “maturity”. The right to be themselves, to have their own beliefs and causes quarrels, complex relationships grown daughters with my mom. How to establish a mother’s relationship with adult daughter, if both sides persist?
5-7 years. Continue reading