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How to help your child become more confident?

Step by step instructions

Recently we received a letter from the mother of a girl, in which she complained that her daughter was not sure myself: afraid to Express themselves in school, avoiding initiatives.

The problem described by our reader, is not new. Many parents face this: the child is closed, insecure, difficult to converge with classmates, defends his point of view. And further such insecurities can go into complexes, complicate social adaptation, will prevent him from showing his skills and find his place in life.

How can parents help the child?

Step one. Exploration

First of all need to understand the causes of uncertainty, realize, and for this purpose to analyze the situations in which it manifests itself. You should make a list of situations in which the child is experiencing difficulty. For example, he is unsure of the new situation, Blendable in an unfamiliar team, afraid to make contact with a stranger. I personally know of several examples where an insurmountable obstacle is to buy bread in the tent, because the child is shy to speak with the seller.

Or obedient child becomes aggressive when parents come to visit. He’s surly, snarling, behaves shocking, runs away, Continue reading

Why the child is lying

For starters, understand for yourself what lies in your children blame YOU. Yes, it is you, not the school, kindergarten, bad company… Here, for example: your baby is four years old, you come for a visit to aunt Alla that treats you pickles. The child turns away, not wants, says: “Tasteless!” You Chipita: “what! Aunt Alla cooks so well! Don’t talk nonsense!” Next time a son or daughter to his (her) not abused, will not be to say “tasteless” and begin to praise what he doesn’t like, but you or someone else will be pleased to listen to his “reasonable speech”. You parents are asked to come to the phone and say that they’re not home? I have been asked. I went and lied. You scolded twos? And berate me. What did you do to about these twos’t know? We are two guys from the diary tried to “withdraw” with the help of various chemicals or accurately ripped out pages.

The reasons children lie perfectly wrote the psychologist O. Yurchenko in his book “the truth about children’s lies, or what parents need to know young liars”.

Children lie because:

– parents like to invent, facilitating a life half-truths and insincerity;

– there is a lack of attention and warmth from their parents;

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Rules of etiquette for well-mannered girls

So true. You became the parents of adorable creatures with huge eyes and cute curls. Increasingly, however, think: angelic appearance girls – this is not the road to life. Baby needs consistent education, she should know the rules of behavior in society and the basics of etiquette. So where to start to bring this little lady?

First of all, with yourself. No matter how exquisite children’s teachers and psychologists in the invention of new methods of working with children, still to this day there is no more effective education than the influence of their own example. Mom maybe an hour telling my daughter that the people around you need to respect. But if after this highly moral notation together they go to the store and she will see how the mother pushes the other and goes to the checkout queue – down the drain. The girl will copy this good example, because mom loves and wants to be like her. And then wonder why the child grows rude. So the rule number one: words parents need to match their actions.

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