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Recently we received a letter from the mother of a girl, in which she complained that her daughter was not sure myself: afraid to Express themselves in school, avoiding initiatives.
The problem described by our reader, is not new. Many parents face this: the child is closed, insecure, difficult to converge with classmates, defends his point of view. And further such insecurities can go into complexes, complicate social adaptation, will prevent him from showing his skills and find his place in life.
How can parents help the child?
Step one. Exploration
First of all need to understand the causes of uncertainty, realize, and for this purpose to analyze the situations in which it manifests itself. You should make a list of situations in which the child is experiencing difficulty. For example, he is unsure of the new situation, Blendable in an unfamiliar team, afraid to make contact with a stranger. I personally know of several examples where an insurmountable obstacle is to buy bread in the tent, because the child is shy to speak with the seller.
Or obedient child becomes aggressive when parents come to visit. He’s surly, snarling, behaves shocking, runs away, Continue reading
The formation of elementary culture of thinking must begin with the first months of a child’s life. A grown man has known speech, conceptual thinking. The concept of — this is a compilation of experiences of human activity in the word. The richer the experience, the more meaningful concepts, the deeper the thought. We sometimes think that we think regardless of any activity, from practice, but this is false. The most abstract thought is always associated with the human-1 cal practice through the concept, the word, generalizing a certain experience. First concepts begin to emerge in the preschool childhood. This process is being prepared in early childhood. Summarizing the experience in the word occurs not immediately, but gradually. The word constantly as more and more saturated with content.
Modern psychologists have identified three main stages in the development of the thinking child: clearly-effective, visual-figurative and conceptual thinking. Visual-active thinking is inherent mainly to the children of 1st, 2nd, 3rd year of life. However, already in the third year begins to form visual-figurative thinking, and then in older preschoolers, there are the first Continue reading
” Mom, I’m scared! — with a shout and cry ran into the parent’s bedroom a little Pasha. Clinging to his mother’s breast, he babbled:
— There… dark… under the bed… terrible…
Mom put her son beside him, patted on the head, and he immediately fell asleep.
— Lisa, so not, — said in a whisper dad, Anatoly Vasiliev. — so You will want to grow up the son of a weakling and a rag. Nothing to appease his fears. Or do you want him to 18 years old slept with us in the same bed?
— what do you suggest? — offended Lisa. — to Lock him in the room — and let him cry into hysterics? You know, better to let the wuss and wuss than neurotic or schizophrenic.
— I Agree, this is also not an option. But then what to do?
— Go to sleep… Tomorrow go ask your mom. It is after all a teacher has worked all her life, have an understanding of child psychology.
The next day on a visit to Vasiliev came grandmother, Elena. After playing with his grandson and putting him for a NAP, she listened to the arguments of both parents, smiled and began her story. — Ah, youth, how I understand you. Because the problem of children’s fears faced by all parents, and my grandfather is no exception. Here you are, shreds, very afraid of strangers. Cost Continue reading