Compassion and desire to help orphans often encouraged people to take the child into the family. But making documents for adoption or guardianship, it is not, how different from normal children can be orphans.
The adopted child is not the same as your own children. A mismatch between expectations and reality that drives you insane. Especially hard is for couples, who have children of their own. In this case, the comparison of friends and foes (not in favor of the latter, of course) transforms the lives of the whole family into a nightmare.
Love nonnative, and in addition the “difficult” child as your own is never easy. To do this, the adoptive parents will have to seriously work on myself and very much aware.
This is very different children
Your children were born in an atmosphere of love. And for many orphans “happy” childhood is associated with hunger, drunken debauchery parents and the beatings. You spoiled their kids with toys and sweets. And these crumbs fell asleep not cozy in the nursery and in the common room of the orphanage, they learned how to steal and cheat to survive. In addition, in dysfunctional families Continue reading
The type of family upbringing – molecular, integrative characteristic of family relations, the relations of parents to parent debt, different kinds of value orientations, attitudes, emotional relationship to the child, level of parental competence.
The character of family education is largely the result of parental position. Typically, there are three criteria for evaluating the parent positions – adequacy, dynamic and predictability. The adequacy characterizes the orientation of the parents in the individual psychological characteristics of the child, his age lines, as well as a measure of awareness of these features. Dynamism is a measure of the mobility of the parent positions, variability of forms and methods of communication and interaction with the child (the perception of the child as an individual, the degree of flexibility of communication with the child in different situations, variability of forms and methods of influence on the child depending on age). Predictability – the ability of parents to predict the prospects of child development and restructuring of interaction with the child.
As the basis of classification of family education by type, and types are usually distinguished: the following specific parameters:
1) the degree of emotional acceptance of the child’s parents, the interest Continue reading
Of course, for a child of any age need attention and love of the father. As son and daughter.
The boy who feels no father’s support, takes the model of behavior of the mother. Dullnesses a boy can not only turn into a “sissy”, but in adult life be deprived of a normal family. Because in order to become a real man, the son should have a role model to know how to behave like a man. All this boy can give a loving and attentive father.
Girls usually look for in my elected representatives are the features who they liked in the fathers. I.e. dad becomes a kind of “strap”, which to raise your power. Father helps daughter to realize that she is beautiful and smart. These compliments father daughter will remember for a long time.
For kids it is very important to see and hear close by, a mother and father. Studies have shown that children whose fathers participated in their education active participation, more sociable and calm. So dad often has to take the child in his arms, talking to him.
Many men are afraid to take small children on his hands, in this situation, the mother must show and explain how to properly handle the child.
It happens that a man is jealous of his mate-to-child, and 5% of young fathers, as scientists have found, is postpartum Continue reading