Step by step instructions
Recently we received a letter from the mother of a girl, in which she complained that her daughter was not sure myself: afraid to Express themselves in school, avoiding initiatives.
The problem described by our reader, is not new. Many parents face this: the child is closed, insecure, difficult to converge with classmates, defends his point of view. And further such insecurities can go into complexes, complicate social adaptation, will prevent him from showing his skills and find his place in life.
How can parents help the child?
Step one. Exploration
First of all need to understand the causes of uncertainty, realize, and for this purpose to analyze the situations in which it manifests itself. You should make a list of situations in which the child is experiencing difficulty. For example, he is unsure of the new situation, Blendable in an unfamiliar team, afraid to make contact with a stranger. I personally know of several examples where an insurmountable obstacle is to buy bread in the tent, because the child is shy to speak with the seller.
Or obedient child becomes aggressive when parents come to visit. He’s surly, snarling, behaves shocking, runs away, Continue reading
In the cultural environment is the formation of the personality that develops, and then, transmits its culture to succeeding generations. So, by their own laws and according to their cultural values live all ethnic groups on the planet, creating States Constitution and many other documents. Other cultures need to know and consider. Then there will be fewer misunderstandings, wars and conflicts between ethnic groups.
In this paper, we have focused on the influence of cultural environment on the formation and development of personality of a child up to 9 years. In childhood is the development of language, norms and values of culture. At this stage, the child absorbs the culture, watching her. Adults, using a system of punishments and rewards, limit its right of selection and assessment.
Culture has a profound influence on behavior, determining the socialization of children; how to dress and teach children what behavior is considered reasonable. Opportunities and the formation of the child’s behavior is determined by culture, even if this behavior is seen as determined by biological factors.
On the physical, intellectual, emotional and social growth of the individual culture in which it develops and lives, are affected to a different degree. There is a lot of evidence that the reflexes of the newborn Continue reading
In psychology found a wonderful way of assisting the other party in cases where it is difficult to cope with the situation, to experience failure, to Express not quite clear feelings or thoughts. He called the technique of active listening.
Ears on top
With the active hearing your task – to understand the speaker and let him know about it. When we say “understand”, we mean not only the content words, but also his emotional experience.
To solve both of these tasks helps the next appointment – to repeat what is said by the interlocutor, and thus to call it a feeling or a state.
Reproducing the contact said, you can repeat a single word, an entire phrase or use a “paraphrase”, that is, to convey the meaning in other words.
For example, your daughter-the schoolgirl said: “I wouldn’t wear these shoes because they are stupid carrot color and me are all in the class to laugh”. Your answer might be: “You don’t like these shoes because you’re afraid that because of their bright colors in school you’ll be laughed at”.
Why is it necessary?
If your answer is accurate, the person will feel that you have joined his experiences. Continue reading