How to help your child become more confident?

Step by step instructions

Recently we received a letter from the mother of a girl, in which she complained that her daughter was not sure myself: afraid to Express themselves in school, avoiding initiatives.

The problem described by our reader, is not new. Many parents face this: the child is closed, insecure, difficult to converge with classmates, defends his point of view. And further such insecurities can go into complexes, complicate social adaptation, will prevent him from showing his skills and find his place in life.

How can parents help the child?

Step one. Exploration

First of all need to understand the causes of uncertainty, realize, and for this purpose to analyze the situations in which it manifests itself. You should make a list of situations in which the child is experiencing difficulty. For example, he is unsure of the new situation, Blendable in an unfamiliar team, afraid to make contact with a stranger. I personally know of several examples where an insurmountable obstacle is to buy bread in the tent, because the child is shy to speak with the seller.

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Harmful to children computer games?

It is clear that games games strife. Four-year-old, rubaiya in “counter strike”, cause most adults are almost the same feelings as if he smoked or drank beer. (Though at desire it is possible and to find favor: say, kid trains your reaction and healthy sports rage.) But there are also special children’s computer games: developing logical thinking, ability to analyze, vocabulary, visual memory, ear training, coordination of movements; teaching reading, mathematics, drawing, languages, traffic rules and behavior in society. and so on and so forth. In General, promise a lot of “Goodies” that I want to immediately run out and buy, otherwise you will not see the child a decent education. However, among the specialist children’s doctors, teachers, psychologists — many opponents of children’s computer games than supporters. If you list the pros and cons, it will turn out so. Against: damage to the eyes and spine, computer radiation, the load on the psyche, addictive. For: the child quickly learns to read, count, acquires computer skills; everything is good in moderation; and in terms of vision and light TV is much more harmful than the computer. Now details.

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The seventh graders arranged in the Tver school hazing

“During the year you should tolerate bullying.” – such was the demand classmates to 13-year-old Denis Sverdlov

– I in this school do not go! Me bullied there! – arriving home on January 19, told her parents Denis.

On the face of a boy “flaunted” a huge bruise. When the son took off his shirt, mom gasped as bruises and scratches were all over his body.

In the Tver school № 40, in class 7a, Dennis came in September, before that I studied in Nelidovo. Two years lived with grandparents while parents who moved to Tver, solved the housing problem. The boy was walking to school in high spirits, tried to study well. Then he suddenly got bruises.

I immediately suspected that something was wrong, but the son for all inquiries answered in monosyllables: “Fell”. Mom teen Natalia is still not at ease. – Then he opened the ulcer (although in the past such problems were not), began to increase blood pressure up to 160! The doctors said due to nerves.

Meanwhile, the teenager regularly come from school with bruises. My parents had an inkling that beat him there. Unable to stand, father Dennis went to school, gathered all the boys and tried Continue reading

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