She was lucky: they were her real parents gave her love, family and home. Writer, blogger, mom remembers my story helps us to understand the feelings of those who are adopted, and the answers to those questions that we don’t always dare to ask.
My experience – this is only my experience. It is clear that all of us who foster children, is different, everyone has their experiences, their feelings – here is the whole palette of emotions from black to white. I do not in any way speak on behalf of all. But I think we each had the opportunity to speak.
The first months of his life I spent in the car. One day mother left me alone and never came back. I was a year, when I was adopted. So I found my real family. Usually others may have many questions, if they know that I was adopted. I heard these questions over the years as I can remember. And I would like to give, finally, the answers. About everything and everyone at once.
1. Orphans in life does not look like orphans with Golden curls that you see in the movies. They’re just kids. They went through trials that many find it difficult even to imagine. They need Continue reading
The type of family upbringing – molecular, integrative characteristic of family relations, the relations of parents to parent debt, different kinds of value orientations, attitudes, emotional relationship to the child, level of parental competence.
The character of family education is largely the result of parental position. Typically, there are three criteria for evaluating the parent positions – adequacy, dynamic and predictability. The adequacy characterizes the orientation of the parents in the individual psychological characteristics of the child, his age lines, as well as a measure of awareness of these features. Dynamism is a measure of the mobility of the parent positions, variability of forms and methods of communication and interaction with the child (the perception of the child as an individual, the degree of flexibility of communication with the child in different situations, variability of forms and methods of influence on the child depending on age). Predictability – the ability of parents to predict the prospects of child development and restructuring of interaction with the child.
As the basis of classification of family education by type, and types are usually distinguished: the following specific parameters:
1) the degree of emotional acceptance of the child’s parents, the interest Continue reading
“Why daddy ?” asked my daughter when she was 7 years old. “Without him you would not exist. And yet he cares about us, that we were fine,” I replied, and she thought.
Modern woman strives for autonomy and independence. The experience of grandmothers, mothers, girlfriends teaches that men cannot be counted. They are killed in war, they drink, go to other women, change their sexual orientation, their gambling addiction sucks… In the mind there is the image of men as something unstable, and a desire to avoid the mistakes of the older generation when the hostess was carrying the entire burden of care for yourself. “It is better to raise one than with this…”
How can that be? On the one hand, you want a reliable and faithful husband, a beautiful harmonious relationship, a loving father to his children. But, on the other hand, the parental experience of family or close friends, finally, my own first experience of the marital relationship scandals, lack of understanding, the threat of divorce is not an opportunity to relax and just enjoy family life. The woman at the slightest misunderstanding begins to doubt her choice as to the perfect father for the child.
Can a woman of the XXI century to be for baby and mom, and dad in one person? Let’s see what loses a child, if his life disappear father, Continue reading