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Recently we received a letter from the mother of a girl, in which she complained that her daughter was not sure myself: afraid to Express themselves in school, avoiding initiatives.
The problem described by our reader, is not new. Many parents face this: the child is closed, insecure, difficult to converge with classmates, defends his point of view. And further such insecurities can go into complexes, complicate social adaptation, will prevent him from showing his skills and find his place in life.
How can parents help the child?
Step one. Exploration
First of all need to understand the causes of uncertainty, realize, and for this purpose to analyze the situations in which it manifests itself. You should make a list of situations in which the child is experiencing difficulty. For example, he is unsure of the new situation, Blendable in an unfamiliar team, afraid to make contact with a stranger. I personally know of several examples where an insurmountable obstacle is to buy bread in the tent, because the child is shy to speak with the seller.
Or obedient child becomes aggressive when parents come to visit. He’s surly, snarling, behaves shocking, runs away, Continue reading
In Czech psychiatric hospitals or correctional facilities for juveniles in recent years, increasingly began to hit children, perfectly healthy, both physically and mentally. The reason was their inability to communicate with one of the divorcing or divorced parents and the reluctance offended by such behavior of the parties to accept this.
Illustrative photo Appeared a special term “the rejected parent”, and the courts, on the recommendation of social workers, often sending descendant of the shrew “love to learn” to that parent institution, specializing in the treatment of mental illness. They argue that, say, in a neutral environment where minors will not manipulate the parent is interested in the alienation of the child’s ex-partner, it will be easier to understand their feelings and to correct them. Let’s be honest – the situation manipulative influence, aimed at the child to strengthen the sole authority of one of the warring parent of the parties is more common than we would like. Parents find themselves unable to rebuild their relationship, not involving children in the divorce mezhduusobitsa.
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We are all children of their parents. We trust them with early childhood – because they raised us and cared for us. Over time, many and become parents themselves, and are surprised to find what it is hard work. But understanding that we are the ones, previous and often have not ended the relationship – for example, mother-daughter time.
With a high probability will not “adjust” to the new realities, and to rebuild completely. The girl grew up, the mother persists – where the roots of this conflict and how it is properly resolved?
Difficult period of growing up
Maturing sons is relatively easier, but not softer. Girls tend to agree with mom, or at least not to conflict once again. But the children quite dramatically declare their own independence and isolation. Therefore, the question “how to build a mother relationship with adult daughter?” is much sharper than in the relationship “son – father”.
The worst thing that you can think of, and that certainly will affect the entire life of girls, the future women are defending their “maturity”. The right to be themselves, to have their own beliefs and causes quarrels, complex relationships grown daughters with my mom. How to establish a mother’s relationship with adult daughter, if both sides persist?
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