In psychology found a wonderful way of assisting the other party in cases where it is difficult to cope with the situation, to experience failure, to Express not quite clear feelings or thoughts. He called the technique of active listening.
Ears on top
With the active hearing your task – to understand the speaker and let him know about it. When we say “understand”, we mean not only the content words, but also his emotional experience.
To solve both of these tasks helps the next appointment – to repeat what is said by the interlocutor, and thus to call it a feeling or a state.
Reproducing the contact said, you can repeat a single word, an entire phrase or use a “paraphrase”, that is, to convey the meaning in other words.
For example, your daughter-the schoolgirl said: “I wouldn’t wear these shoes because they are stupid carrot color and me are all in the class to laugh”. Your answer might be: “You don’t like these shoes because you’re afraid that because of their bright colors in school you’ll be laughed at”.
Why is it necessary?
If your answer is accurate, the person will feel that you have joined his experiences. Continue reading
Why not just come up with our kids! Their imagination would envy even the storyteller!
Surely all parents are already faced with the first fictional or embellished stories of their tots. But there comes that moment when you realize that the child is no longer just dreams . and develops her skills liar-professional.
Then the parents begin to worry, not knowing how to wean their child from such nasty habits. Often we do not think that it is our attitude, education or reaction to children’s lie exacerbates the problem.
Why the child is lying
If the younger sibling was more likely to deceive their parents, most likely, he ceased to trust them, or just afraid of the negative reactions to the offense. It is very important to know that you are not going to scold him. Express dissatisfaction with the act of the child, not them as a person.
Scientists have found that 4-year-old child lying approximately every two hours, and six-year – every 90 minutes. False “from the mouth of Babes” appears in 3 years, and 4-6 years children reach this perfection.
I’m afraid of you!
The most common cause of children’s lies – the fear of a parent yelling or punishment Continue reading