” Mom, I’m scared! — with a shout and cry ran into the parent’s bedroom a little Pasha. Clinging to his mother’s breast, he babbled:
— There… dark… under the bed… terrible…
Mom put her son beside him, patted on the head, and he immediately fell asleep.
— Lisa, so not, — said in a whisper dad, Anatoly Vasiliev. — so You will want to grow up the son of a weakling and a rag. Nothing to appease his fears. Or do you want him to 18 years old slept with us in the same bed?
— what do you suggest? — offended Lisa. — to Lock him in the room — and let him cry into hysterics? You know, better to let the wuss and wuss than neurotic or schizophrenic.
— I Agree, this is also not an option. But then what to do?
— Go to sleep… Tomorrow go ask your mom. It is after all a teacher has worked all her life, have an understanding of child psychology.
The next day on a visit to Vasiliev came grandmother, Elena. After playing with his grandson and putting him for a NAP, she listened to the arguments of both parents, smiled and began her story. — Ah, youth, how I understand you. Because the problem of children’s fears faced by all parents, and my grandfather is no exception. Here you are, shreds, very afraid of strangers. Cost Continue reading
Babies can’t tell their moms and dads what they want, or what they hurt and the only way to contact parents is crying. Crying is for babies primary means of communication with others, it’s a Wake-up call about the necessary assistance and need to know what is the cause of the crying and help your baby.
Reason for crying is not enough, and the baby never cries without reason. The cry of a baby is always different and depends on what was troubling him, and crying from pain in the tummy, for example, very similar to weeping caused inconvenience, boredom and loneliness.
Gradually parents begin to identify causes of crying your baby. We will try to understand the underlying reasons for a child’s crying.
Probable causes of crying
Hunger . Crying due to hunger is the main factor crying baby and soothe it easier. Food is the most important need of the baby, so when your baby is hungry, to comfort him the only food is milk. Recently the doctors pediatricians recommend to feed your baby on demand and not to build any particular mode of feeding .
A hungry child first cries and stops, waiting for the result and if it is not understood, begins to scream again, but compassionate, demanding and shrill. Continue reading
In psychology found a wonderful way of assisting the other party in cases where it is difficult to cope with the situation, to experience failure, to Express not quite clear feelings or thoughts. He called the technique of active listening.
Ears on top
With the active hearing your task – to understand the speaker and let him know about it. When we say “understand”, we mean not only the content words, but also his emotional experience.
To solve both of these tasks helps the next appointment – to repeat what is said by the interlocutor, and thus to call it a feeling or a state.
Reproducing the contact said, you can repeat a single word, an entire phrase or use a “paraphrase”, that is, to convey the meaning in other words.
For example, your daughter-the schoolgirl said: “I wouldn’t wear these shoes because they are stupid carrot color and me are all in the class to laugh”. Your answer might be: “You don’t like these shoes because you’re afraid that because of their bright colors in school you’ll be laughed at”.
Why is it necessary?
If your answer is accurate, the person will feel that you have joined his experiences. Continue reading