Compassion and desire to help orphans often encouraged people to take the child into the family. But making documents for adoption or guardianship, it is not, how different from normal children can be orphans.
The adopted child is not the same as your own children. A mismatch between expectations and reality that drives you insane. Especially hard is for couples, who have children of their own. In this case, the comparison of friends and foes (not in favor of the latter, of course) transforms the lives of the whole family into a nightmare.
Love nonnative, and in addition the “difficult” child as your own is never easy. To do this, the adoptive parents will have to seriously work on myself and very much aware.
This is very different children
Your children were born in an atmosphere of love. And for many orphans “happy” childhood is associated with hunger, drunken debauchery parents and the beatings. You spoiled their kids with toys and sweets. And these crumbs fell asleep not cozy in the nursery and in the common room of the orphanage, they learned how to steal and cheat to survive. In addition, in dysfunctional families Continue reading
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Recently we received a letter from the mother of a girl, in which she complained that her daughter was not sure myself: afraid to Express themselves in school, avoiding initiatives.
The problem described by our reader, is not new. Many parents face this: the child is closed, insecure, difficult to converge with classmates, defends his point of view. And further such insecurities can go into complexes, complicate social adaptation, will prevent him from showing his skills and find his place in life.
How can parents help the child?
Step one. Exploration
First of all need to understand the causes of uncertainty, realize, and for this purpose to analyze the situations in which it manifests itself. You should make a list of situations in which the child is experiencing difficulty. For example, he is unsure of the new situation, Blendable in an unfamiliar team, afraid to make contact with a stranger. I personally know of several examples where an insurmountable obstacle is to buy bread in the tent, because the child is shy to speak with the seller.
Or obedient child becomes aggressive when parents come to visit. He’s surly, snarling, behaves shocking, runs away, Continue reading
In Czech psychiatric hospitals or correctional facilities for juveniles in recent years, increasingly began to hit children, perfectly healthy, both physically and mentally. The reason was their inability to communicate with one of the divorcing or divorced parents and the reluctance offended by such behavior of the parties to accept this.
Illustrative photo Appeared a special term “the rejected parent”, and the courts, on the recommendation of social workers, often sending descendant of the shrew “love to learn” to that parent institution, specializing in the treatment of mental illness. They argue that, say, in a neutral environment where minors will not manipulate the parent is interested in the alienation of the child’s ex-partner, it will be easier to understand their feelings and to correct them. Let’s be honest – the situation manipulative influence, aimed at the child to strengthen the sole authority of one of the warring parent of the parties is more common than we would like. Parents find themselves unable to rebuild their relationship, not involving children in the divorce mezhduusobitsa.
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