Compassion and desire to help orphans often encouraged people to take the child into the family. But making documents for adoption or guardianship, it is not, how different from normal children can be orphans.
The adopted child is not the same as your own children. A mismatch between expectations and reality that drives you insane. Especially hard is for couples, who have children of their own. In this case, the comparison of friends and foes (not in favor of the latter, of course) transforms the lives of the whole family into a nightmare.
Love nonnative, and in addition the “difficult” child as your own is never easy. To do this, the adoptive parents will have to seriously work on myself and very much aware.
This is very different children
Your children were born in an atmosphere of love. And for many orphans “happy” childhood is associated with hunger, drunken debauchery parents and the beatings. You spoiled their kids with toys and sweets. And these crumbs fell asleep not cozy in the nursery and in the common room of the orphanage, they learned how to steal and cheat to survive. In addition, in dysfunctional families Continue reading
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Recently we received a letter from the mother of a girl, in which she complained that her daughter was not sure myself: afraid to Express themselves in school, avoiding initiatives.
The problem described by our reader, is not new. Many parents face this: the child is closed, insecure, difficult to converge with classmates, defends his point of view. And further such insecurities can go into complexes, complicate social adaptation, will prevent him from showing his skills and find his place in life.
How can parents help the child?
Step one. Exploration
First of all need to understand the causes of uncertainty, realize, and for this purpose to analyze the situations in which it manifests itself. You should make a list of situations in which the child is experiencing difficulty. For example, he is unsure of the new situation, Blendable in an unfamiliar team, afraid to make contact with a stranger. I personally know of several examples where an insurmountable obstacle is to buy bread in the tent, because the child is shy to speak with the seller.
Or obedient child becomes aggressive when parents come to visit. He’s surly, snarling, behaves shocking, runs away, Continue reading
It is clear that games games strife. Four-year-old, rubaiya in “counter strike”, cause most adults are almost the same feelings as if he smoked or drank beer. (Though at desire it is possible and to find favor: say, kid trains your reaction and healthy sports rage.) But there are also special children’s computer games: developing logical thinking, ability to analyze, vocabulary, visual memory, ear training, coordination of movements; teaching reading, mathematics, drawing, languages, traffic rules and behavior in society. and so on and so forth. In General, promise a lot of “Goodies” that I want to immediately run out and buy, otherwise you will not see the child a decent education. However, among the specialist children’s doctors, teachers, psychologists — many opponents of children’s computer games than supporters. If you list the pros and cons, it will turn out so. Against: damage to the eyes and spine, computer radiation, the load on the psyche, addictive. For: the child quickly learns to read, count, acquires computer skills; everything is good in moderation; and in terms of vision and light TV is much more harmful than the computer. Now details.
Ophthalmologists recommend Continue reading