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Recently we received a letter from the mother of a girl, in which she complained that her daughter was not sure myself: afraid to Express themselves in school, avoiding initiatives.
The problem described by our reader, is not new. Many parents face this: the child is closed, insecure, difficult to converge with classmates, defends his point of view. And further such insecurities can go into complexes, complicate social adaptation, will prevent him from showing his skills and find his place in life.
How can parents help the child?
Step one. Exploration
First of all need to understand the causes of uncertainty, realize, and for this purpose to analyze the situations in which it manifests itself. You should make a list of situations in which the child is experiencing difficulty. For example, he is unsure of the new situation, Blendable in an unfamiliar team, afraid to make contact with a stranger. I personally know of several examples where an insurmountable obstacle is to buy bread in the tent, because the child is shy to speak with the seller.
Or obedient child becomes aggressive when parents come to visit. He’s surly, snarling, behaves shocking, runs away, Continue reading
It is clear that games games strife. Four-year-old, rubaiya in “counter strike”, cause most adults are almost the same feelings as if he smoked or drank beer. (Though at desire it is possible and to find favor: say, kid trains your reaction and healthy sports rage.) But there are also special children’s computer games: developing logical thinking, ability to analyze, vocabulary, visual memory, ear training, coordination of movements; teaching reading, mathematics, drawing, languages, traffic rules and behavior in society. and so on and so forth. In General, promise a lot of “Goodies” that I want to immediately run out and buy, otherwise you will not see the child a decent education. However, among the specialist children’s doctors, teachers, psychologists — many opponents of children’s computer games than supporters. If you list the pros and cons, it will turn out so. Against: damage to the eyes and spine, computer radiation, the load on the psyche, addictive. For: the child quickly learns to read, count, acquires computer skills; everything is good in moderation; and in terms of vision and light TV is much more harmful than the computer. Now details.
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For starters, understand for yourself what lies in your children blame YOU. Yes, it is you, not the school, kindergarten, bad company… Here, for example: your baby is four years old, you come for a visit to aunt Alla that treats you pickles. The child turns away, not wants, says: “Tasteless!” You Chipita: “what! Aunt Alla cooks so well! Don’t talk nonsense!” Next time a son or daughter to his (her) not abused, will not be to say “tasteless” and begin to praise what he doesn’t like, but you or someone else will be pleased to listen to his “reasonable speech”. You parents are asked to come to the phone and say that they’re not home? I have been asked. I went and lied. You scolded twos? And berate me. What did you do to about these twos’t know? We are two guys from the diary tried to “withdraw” with the help of various chemicals or accurately ripped out pages.
The reasons children lie perfectly wrote the psychologist O. Yurchenko in his book “the truth about children’s lies, or what parents need to know young liars”.
Children lie because:
– parents like to invent, facilitating a life half-truths and insincerity;
– there is a lack of attention and warmth from their parents;
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