Compassion and desire to help orphans often encouraged people to take the child into the family. But making documents for adoption or guardianship, it is not, how different from normal children can be orphans.
The adopted child is not the same as your own children. A mismatch between expectations and reality that drives you insane. Especially hard is for couples, who have children of their own. In this case, the comparison of friends and foes (not in favor of the latter, of course) transforms the lives of the whole family into a nightmare.
Love nonnative, and in addition the “difficult” child as your own is never easy. To do this, the adoptive parents will have to seriously work on myself and very much aware.
This is very different children
Your children were born in an atmosphere of love. And for many orphans “happy” childhood is associated with hunger, drunken debauchery parents and the beatings. You spoiled their kids with toys and sweets. And these crumbs fell asleep not cozy in the nursery and in the common room of the orphanage, they learned how to steal and cheat to survive. In addition, in dysfunctional families Continue reading
It is clear that games games strife. Four-year-old, rubaiya in “counter strike”, cause most adults are almost the same feelings as if he smoked or drank beer. (Though at desire it is possible and to find favor: say, kid trains your reaction and healthy sports rage.) But there are also special children’s computer games: developing logical thinking, ability to analyze, vocabulary, visual memory, ear training, coordination of movements; teaching reading, mathematics, drawing, languages, traffic rules and behavior in society. and so on and so forth. In General, promise a lot of “Goodies” that I want to immediately run out and buy, otherwise you will not see the child a decent education. However, among the specialist children’s doctors, teachers, psychologists — many opponents of children’s computer games than supporters. If you list the pros and cons, it will turn out so. Against: damage to the eyes and spine, computer radiation, the load on the psyche, addictive. For: the child quickly learns to read, count, acquires computer skills; everything is good in moderation; and in terms of vision and light TV is much more harmful than the computer. Now details.
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In Czech psychiatric hospitals or correctional facilities for juveniles in recent years, increasingly began to hit children, perfectly healthy, both physically and mentally. The reason was their inability to communicate with one of the divorcing or divorced parents and the reluctance offended by such behavior of the parties to accept this.
Illustrative photo Appeared a special term “the rejected parent”, and the courts, on the recommendation of social workers, often sending descendant of the shrew “love to learn” to that parent institution, specializing in the treatment of mental illness. They argue that, say, in a neutral environment where minors will not manipulate the parent is interested in the alienation of the child’s ex-partner, it will be easier to understand their feelings and to correct them. Let’s be honest – the situation manipulative influence, aimed at the child to strengthen the sole authority of one of the warring parent of the parties is more common than we would like. Parents find themselves unable to rebuild their relationship, not involving children in the divorce mezhduusobitsa.
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